My A-Z theme for the month of April is romance and the modern, technology-driven cubicle dweller (like me).

I got a huge variety of responses and thoughts on my post about Flirting. But one of the thoughts I saw more than once was that it’s not an easy thing to define. Y’all didn’t say that exactly, but the sentiment was there.

And I completely agree. I think intentionally setting out to flirt – having a solid plan for it – is about as difficult and counter-productive as anything. It’s like setting out to make something go viral. Even if you have all the right pieces, it doesn’t mean they’ll come together to get you the intended result.

It works better if it happens naturally. You’re already talking to someone you like, and a line slips out here, a tease slips out there, and the innuendo lies underneath. (Oh, innuendo. I should have done that for ‘I’. Oh well :-P).

And joking is one of the ways that happens. At least I think so. A shared sense of humor is such an attractive thing. When you both make the same obscure references, when you can toss out your favorite one liners from movies and TV shows and the other person gets it, or even your standard kidding around. Bad puns, slap-stick if that’s your thing, intentionally bad pick-up lines that aren’t meant to seduce, but instead amuse.

The ability to laugh, to poke fun at things that might otherwise stress us out (work, money, life, even the age-old and never truly answered ‘why did the chicken cross the road?’), and to find someone who sees the same layer of humor in it. Now that’s just sexy.

What kind of things make you giggle?