So, um apparently it’s been two weeks since my last post. I feel like a recovering blogger. Except I don’t want to be recovering. But here’s my weak attempt at an excuse. See, I’m one of those people who writes short drafts when I write novels. All of them have come out short. This most recent one was 45k words after draft one, and came in at 70k words after I revised it. I was short about 30,000 words. That’s like 1/3 of the novel (or so) for those of you who aren’t completely horrified by math.
So, all those words I might normally use to blog with? I’ve rearranged them and dumped them into a more pressing source for the moment.
But I do have something that caught my attention during this entire process that’s got me thinking, and kind of bothered. It starts with writing, but it’s not a writing-related thought.
And I’ve tried to write this post out over and over, and I just can’t get it right. Fortunately, Delilah S. Dawson has a series of fantastic posts on her blog (this first one links to the others) about why it’s not okay to be a creeper.
My brief thoughts on the matter. “No” (whether in regards to sex, or any other form of personal space, online or in person) does not mean:
“Maybe.”
“Yes.”
“Ask again later”
or “I’m thinking about it” or “If you buy me another drink.”
Or anything other than “No.”
Go read Delilah’s posts. She says it much better than I can.
Uh, yea, welcome back! I was wondering what you were up to. I’m glad your work is going well though. I will have to check out this post but yes, No means No
I’m glad to hear you’ve made time for writing and aren’t chained to your work-desk, somewhere in an anonymous office building.
I’ve never had a problem with “no.” It’s one of my favorite words. Heh-heh-heh.
As much as I miss the blog posts, yay for writing! And yeah, creepers, egh. Intruding on someone’s personal space, especially when they’ve said no, is just wrong. The post you linked to really did a good job of saying it.